The First Post is the Deepest...

I think Dan and I actually both do not like that song.

In any case, in brief, here are the aims, in no particular order:

• reject any traditions that offend my feminist ideals (I ain't no object to be passed from one man to another, thanks very much!)
• not spend a ridiculous amount of money
• round up close but far-flung friends to spend time with them
• have an above life-average amount of fun in the preparation and execution 
• and a below life-average amount of stress and fighting
• reflect us as individuals and as a couple and not what other people think and/or want
• all while not permanently offending or being a source of snide remarks from extended family for the rest of our lives.

I'll add more as I think of them.