I've had this sitting in a draft for awhile because pinning down a timeline seems to have something...final about it, like I'm closing off options to optimize the whole day even more. I'd like people's feedback on whether this seems like it might work, though:
- 9-12: morning setup, flowers (makeup/hair?)
- 12-12:30: lunch
- 12:30-1:30: caterer sets up, immediate family arrives for the posed family group shots
- 1:30: ask guests to start arriving by then, drinks are available (lemonade, iced tea, hot tea, coffee, alcohols)
- 2-2:30 ceremony (probably shorter than 30 minutes though)
- 2:30 onwards: guests enjoy food, drinks, dancing, games...
- 2:30-2:40: Dan and I hang out in the sitting room to take a moment and savor being newlyweds on our own
- 2:40-2:50: photographer comes in to take a few photos of us
- 2:50: we make our 'entrance' (we'll probably just walk in and join the crowd, I don't think I want a formal announcement here or anything)
- Reception until 6:30, Dan and I will head out to have a private dinner. We need to figure out transportation so that Dan can drink as his own wedding.
- I'll probably take a nap back at our apartment.
- If I feel up to it, we may head into Manhattan for an after party/bar-hopping of sorts with all the young folk who are in town.
The whole thing with the timing is balancing it so that people don't need to rush over after lunch and so that it goes on long enough so I don't feel like we spent so much time planning for something that passes in the blink of an eye, but then also ends early enough that people can get home or go out to dinner (but, sustained by the finger food at the reception, not need to get dinner immediately).
I've also toyed with the idea of a welcome picnic of sorts on Friday evening (though most people probably wouldn't arrive in time unless they take time off from work, and I don't want to make people do that), and then some kind of group brunch on Sunday, because there are a lot of people who will be around that I don't get to see very often that I want to spend more time with, but it seems unlikely that that would happen without planning ahead and planning just the one day is already a bit of a project (potentially helpful link: 2000 Dollar Budget Wedding on pay-your-own-way events beyond the wedding day itself). Also, I know that even the wedding itself will tire me out quite a bit and I'll need some time to recharge, so I probably shouldn't be too ambitious with the amount of social activities planned in here.